This week I’ve been contemplating how much HOW WE FEEL about ourselves and our bodies correlates with how we feel naked in front of a mirror, in the bedroom, and in BED with our lover. OF COURSE it does, right?
I embarked on the Whole30® journey this week. Decided it was time for some shifts in my eating habits, drinking habits (zoiks, no more Grey Goose w/a lemon twist martinis for a while). Primarily this started because I get a farm share every week, I get so many delicious vegetables, and it pains me if they go to waste, so the decision to focus on gobbling up those veggies every week got me interested in this particular eating program; notice I’m refraining from the word diet which implies it is a weight loss stint. This is not that – it is an opportunity for me to refocus and gain perspective on what I’m ingesting and recognizing what goes into my MOUTH clearly has a direct impact on my overall health, well-being, AND my sexuality. Oh, and side note here, never pass up the opportunity to get some of your man’s organic juices down your throat either! You know I love me some cock in my mouth. The sweetness of those first drips…. when you’ve sucked him HARD. Oh, you know what I’m talking about, right??? If not, pay attention next time his cock is in your mouth, and get yourself some of those dribbles. They contain vital nutrients! Or, if it’s your preference, get yourself some pussy juices; what’s also fun is to KISS after your man has been licking your puss – mmmmm delicious to taste yourself on his lips.
WHAT’S PROJECTING? it’s up to us.
Quite a few years ago I was watching a program on TV. There was a couple on a daytime show and they were discussing the wife’s weight loss. She was feeling … well, she felt that the husband was now treating her differently and she wasn’t happy with that. Let me back-up here just a little. This woman had previously weighed like 500 pounds. And then she lost a lot of weight. WOW – good for her, right? Yes!! I just wanted you to know we aren’t talking about 10 pounds. So, in general, the wife said that when she was overweight her husband didn’t give her the attention that he was now giving her. She was feeling resentful that her husband was now paying her some attention that he didn’t pay her before. She specifically said, “I was the same person THEN as I am now.” My initial thought was, ya, what a dick. But then the husband’s response really made me rethink that. He said – no, you aren’t the same person. You now feel good about yourself. He went on to basically say that because she felt good about herself she projected a self-confidence that was attractive, as well as the fact that she felt good and therefore was also in better moods, etc. I have to say – it made quite a bit of sense to me.
Yes, there are probably a lot of emotional undertones within that relationship that I’m not delving into here. How could I? I barely recall the program. Hopefully I won’t be misinterpreted. I am simply choosing to focus on the point that when we FEEL GOOD in our bodies – we project that out to the world and people FEEL that as well! You can weigh whatever you want and feel GOOD about it. Difficult in our world, but possible. When I was in high school I weighed 103 pounds and I thought I was fat. LMFAO. How in the world I could think that is beyond me! I even desperately wanted to weigh 99 pounds but just couldn’t ever get there. Probably because my indulgent spirit that is with me today, was in its baby stages back then. I weigh 40 more pounds now and I feel GREAT. And I haven’t gotten any taller btw. Oh, and I think my boobs are the same size too. I also feel even better after just 4 days of saying no to many, many things I normally ingest. haha (no alcohol, sugar, grains of any kind, legumes, dairy, FRENCH FRIES). But here’s how ingrained this image BS is – I hesitated to say share that I now weigh 40 more pounds because I instantly felt embarrassed when I thought about that fact, as if it matters. We’ve marinated in a society that promotes us feeling shitty about our weight, even when we are starving ourselves. All this being said, it’s important to feel GOOD and surround ourselves with those who realize our VALUE in feeling good and confident and secure.
While I’m on the high school true confessions I will go ahead and confess I used to religiously work out to Richard fucking Simmons; I had the record. Priceless.
SUPPORTING INDULGENCE.
We all know when we need to say no to something that is not making us feel optimal. If it were just that easy to NOT do it, right? This is absolutely about choice and discipline. Indulgence is also absolutely one of my favorite words and one of my favorite past-times. I’m really good at saying YES; and I love to encourage others to say YES. Enjoy it? Do it. Tastes good? Eat it. Makes you happy? Go for it. I’m a YES kind of girl. I’m a balance kind of girl too. Fortunately, I’m able to have a bit of discipline mixed in with my indulgence too. But, INDULGENCE is soooo much more fun.
When your man is out of town, what kind of indulgence do you like to engage in? It’s fun, isn’t It? When he leaves for a while. Even when he leaves for work in the morning, and you don’t have to, it feels good, right? Don’t you just stretch waaaaaay out, like the feline you truly are deep down inside, take up the whole bed. Snooze a little more, or maybe masturbate first then snooze a little more. A friend once told me she couldn’t wait until her man would leave for work so she could get out her vibrator. Haha. Guys, it’s not that we don’t looooooove your cock. It’s just that sometimes we like our quickies too. And those can be achieved with our vibrators. It’s ok to indulge ourselves, by ourselves. In fact, it’s important! Guys – get off in the shower once in a while (or however often you want). Explore your fantasies while you’re by yourself. That’s part of indulgence too.
CHALLENGE.
I ran across a real gem today. Who knows – this may or may not be “real”. But, it has had nearly 92,000 shares and over 24,000 comments; it is resonating with quite a few people. I tell ya. Ok, first. Here’s the link:
https://www.facebook.com/umpasmith/posts/10101174072282102?pnref=story
I’m going to insert screen shots of the “story” here for ease of reading:
Now, ok ok, I get it. Point is made and it is funny. The guy was feeling jilted by his lover. He got HER back, he got his revenge, made a very good point. But, you know what??? He’s really gotta take a deeeeeeep, haaaaaaarrrrrd look at himself. There’s a fucking reason why this woman doesn’t care about sex as much as he does. And it’s because she’s not getting fucked right. I’m not saying she’s in the 100% right category (since when does shopping fulfill our emotional needs?), nor is he 100% wrong. There’s nothing wrong with just wanting cuddles either, without it leading to sex (I prefer it always lead to sex myself). She didn’t choose an optimal time to express her feelings. I have a feeling her feelings are related to the fact she may have fallen for the lie that her libido isn’t as high as a man’s, or that she just doesn’t like sex that much, or whatever. Instead of focusing on getting his revenge, I would have preferred to read that this dude decided to focus on something more positive – like how can I make my woman BEG for sex because I’m making her orgasm like never before and squirt the ceiling in the process. Who says no to 3-hour fuck sessions with numerous orgasms, right?!?! Even one hour fuck sessions with one orgasm, when it’s a mind-blowing orgasm, who says no to that? I suppose I could understand “no” if it was the 3rd time that day; orgasms can get exhausting because they can last ….on and on and on. A continual wave. I’ve gotten to a point where I just couldn’t cum any more. One particular time was in a hot tub, with jets. Lmao. That steady stream of pressure could’ve kept me orgasming for hours.
This dude asks me to “Please have a sense of humour!”. And challenges men that if they have the BALLS – they will forward his post. I got a chuckle out of it and I’ve now shared it. What I truly wonder is if HE (and all the men who had the balls to share it) has the BALLS to find out how to make his woman cum and squirt multiple times; to have the kind of sex where a woman won’t be asking for cuddles because she’s receiving all the nurturing she needs because that’s what good, connected sex will do. It is so deeply satisfying – I can feel satiated for days from it. There’s no need for revenge when we are taking responsibility for our short-comings.
Freshly Fucked FACE.
But back to that indulgent morning of cumming with your vibrator…. and proceeding with your morning routine: shower, and then putting on “your face.” Right? We get ourselves ready for the day. Well, let me tell ya, the BEST kind of face you can put on first thing in the morning is your freshly fucked face. There’s a glow when you’ve orgasmed before you get your day started. I will often set an alarm early enough, when my lover spends the night and either of us has to be to work, to be sure we have a morning fuck. It’s pretty quick, of course. Because work is there, looming in the distance. But whether you masturbate or get fucked, it’s the freshest, best face around. your coworkers will thank you. They don’t know for sure what it is – but they know you’re in a really fucking good mood.
GO BOLDLY.
Having all the good feeeeelzzzz. It’s a great goal. We have responsibilities- jobs, kids, partners, bills, cleaning, grocery shopping, meal prep, but we HAVE to take time out to orgasm. And if that means setting an alarm – then do it. A 30 min morning screw and you can walk out the door with that freshly fucked face and hopefully no one will ruin it too quickly. Word of caution tho. The 30 min morning fuck cannot replace the longer sessions of blissful sex. That’s just your quickie, not your go to all the time. Step boldly into the world, freshly fucked, smiling. Float your way through the day on the bliss of your morning orgasm!
Time for ME to put on my freshly fucked face!
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