Are you *snickering*?? I do, whenever I see 69 anywhere – weather reports, MPH, maps, my food purchase yesterday ended in .69 cents.
The CLIT LATCH-ON
I find 69ing to be kinda awkward. I mean, of course I LIKE it because anything involving sucking and licking juicy genitals is suuuuper fun and yummy. I enjoy it for a while but then what seems best and what I prefer is to just pleasure my man while he lays back and FULLY ENJOYS my efforts without having to think about whether or not he’s licking me in the right place. Same for me – I like being pleasured, enjoying being the only focus (recalling one of my favorite questions of all time: “don’t you want to just lay back, sip your wine, and get your pussy licked?”) without wondering if I’m scraping my teeth on his cock because he’s gotten me blissed out of my mind with his finger shoved up my bum while he’s latched onto my clit with his lips. I think I better say again, though, I’m not dissing it. It’s an excellent “getting started” tool for sure.
Getting the juices flowing
That’s the ALL-IMPORTANT thing. You know this, I HOPE. If your woman isn’t wet – then it’s time to immediately pay attention to why not. Now recently, as I stated last week, I’ve listened to Kim Anami and she’s saying that EVERY woman can get wet. And if a woman’s not wet, then she’s not ready for sex and more “work” needs to be done. I feel personally empowered by her statements, especially with regard to menopausal women, because she says we’ve been told a lie, and we’ve bought into it, that women dry up. WOW. I’m not shocked that we’ve been lied to that’s for sure. Especially considering some scientists STILL don’t “believe” squirting is a real thing. Lol!! oh, ok. Nevermind 1000s of women ARE squirting. And, no, it’s NOT pee. It’s distinct from pee. I can speak intelligently on this matter since I’ve done it and have definitely compared the results. I did the science experiment and homework on myself.
Women can and will get wet. All women, according to Kim. I will say that I like to shy away from “all” statements as I personally would allow for exceptions (and medications interfere with our body chemistry; dynamics that I believe can be overcome but must be taken into account). There’s always exceptions and I’m unsure yet her stance on that. But, I agree whole-heartedly that all-too-often women aren’t getting wet and it IS a problem. Heck, I’m picturing porn for instance. I’m so turned-off by the fact that the majority of the time it is obvious there is no juice flowing. The “work” that Kim speaks of to overcome why a woman is not getting wet is not just physical, but also emotional. In fact, it’s probably all emotional blockage. I would refer you to #KimAnami (http://www.kimanami.com) if you’d like to explore that with yourself and/or with your partner. I prefer to focus on the bedroom and the physical work that can be happening.
S.L.O.W. it down!
Ladies. Start touching yourselves IN FRONT OF YOUR MAN, not just after he walks out the door for work when you grab your vibrator to get off real quick because all you got was another quickie from your man. If you start touching yourself before he cums, things are going to happen: you are going to get wet because YOU know best how to get yourself revved up; and your man is gonna pay attention to what you are doing and jump on your bandwagon. Then S.L.O.W. things down – kick him out of your vag if you think he’s gonna cum too quick, or if he’s in a bad habit of cumming too quickly. You have every right to push him off. Gotta get yours too!! TIME to make a stance for that.
Guys. Most frustrating thing EVER. If you aren’t fucking your woman for a minimum of 30-45 min, I doubt she’s cumming. And if you “think” she is cumming in a short amount of time, she’s probably faking (of course some women can and do cum quickly). It takes most women (probably 99.999999% of them) TIME to warm up. She may even be wet, and yes, that signals readiness for penis penetration but that doesn’t mean she’s ready to CUM. it takes TIME with your cock deep inside her. And NOT that fast pounding (sure, some of that) but S.L.O.W., steady, deeeeep penetration while you’re looking at her, looking into her eyes, watching your cock go inside of her pussy (one of my personal favs), moaning in ecstasy yourself, talking about how gooooood her pussy feels and how hard it’s making you, nibbling on her neck, kissing her, turning her over for a while, you know – in general changing up positions, but in the end there’s probably a certain position that is comfortable for both of you that maximizes her potential for cumming. This does not have to be an endurance test. Find comfortable positions for both of you and don’t deviate from those for a while. Until you know for sure you have her cumming often and regularly.
JUICINESS – IT IS the goal
Sex is a 2-way street. I don’t feel very giving if I’m not getting. Keep that in mind guys. There are certain times when I choose to just get my guy off though. With a hand-job. Handys are soooo fun because I can scoot real close alongside his body and WATCH – up close and personal. Of course, gotta watch out for his squirt. Protect the eyes. But giving pleasure this way excites me so very much and gives me a deep sense of satisfaction – to feel his cock get bigger and harder in my hand then watching his juices spooge from the tip of his cock. It’s amazing to watch. I always go in for catching some cum with my tongue and mouth. Put the tip of his cock in my mouth. That dose of cum is a shot of vitality as far as I’m concerned. If you think you “don’t like cum” then I suggest you just not think about the cum itself. Can you focus on how good you are making your man feel? I’m pretty sure it drives a man wild knowing his woman wants to swallow. Or, at least pretend to be down there taking some of it in. Sex is JUICY. .. that’s the goal. When we are oozing juices that means we are attaining our goal of sexual satisfaction so stop being such pansies about those juices (yours and his). JUICES are delightfully refreshing.
CONNECT WITH “DOWN THERE”
Ultimately, we all need to be DOING ourselves so we can BE better lovers. I’m not referring to masturbating right now. Rather, what makes YOU feel luxurious? What makes your body feel sleek? I was just looking down at my arms and myskin looks glisten-y because I just slathered a bunch of coconut oil all over. Admittedly I’ve fake-baked a few times this winter. I live in Montana so it feels good to get that blast of Vit D. It also makes my skin look better which makes me FEEL good. When I look at myself and if there’s a part of me that I’m thinking, “I don’t want to look at that” because I’m not liking or appreciating it – I force myself to LOOK. If that means my pussy – I get out that mirror and sit in front of a bright window (everything looks better in natural light) and look. It’s important to be CONNECTED. I don’t want “down there” to be a place you aren’t connected with. Get up close and personal and KNOW what is going on. It’s not just your waxer or your doc or your partner that should be looking. Get out that mirror. To start you can lay on the floor in front of your full length mirror laid down sideways and spread your legs for a visual from that angle if you don’t want the up close and personal view right at first. Just go for it is what I’m saying. Don’t allow secret, hidden thoughts to keep you from loving every part of yourself. My ultimate point is – what makes YOU feel glisten-y and sleek and sexy and sexual and oozy and flowy; what drives you WILD. Some wine, some good music, some candles, good company, a sexy movie; exercise, a sauna, a hotspring, a hike in the woods, or just a walk around the block during the full moon. Start DOING YOU. Or, keep doing YOU if you already know how.
I’m gonna have a spa evening tonight myself – because tomorrow I’m gonna squirt! I just have a feeling. You know I have to and WILL set the good example!
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