While I was lying in bed this morning contemplating today’s posting (and masturbating) I wondered: Do you feel guilty for your fantasies? If you do, I would like to empower you to NOT feel guilty any longer.
I went to the Merriam-Webster, specifically “Word Central”, definition of fantasy which is apparently for kids. Fantasy is defined as “imagination”; and imagination is defined as, “the act, process, or power of forming a mental picture of something not present and especially of something one has not known or experienced; a creation of the mind.” “fantasy.” Merriam-Webster.com. 2007. http://www.wordcentral.com/cgi-bin/student?book=Student&va=imagination. (23 June 2017).
OUR fantasy world is our very own. What you are thinking about while masturbating, or fucking, or sitting at your desk at work – is your own world. It’s not necessary that we ever share it. Of course, then there’s people like me who just talk alllll about their fantasies. But, I learned early that what I wanted to think about did NOT need to be shared, nor was I ever obligated to share, with anyone. That’s the beauty of our minds (it can also be a mind-fuck, watch out for THAT part). Can I just say if your fantasies are, well, “disturbing” to you – then maybe seek the advice of a professional. But that’s not what I’m referring to here. You know – like maybe you are thinking about someone (even someone in particular) sticking their finger up your ass while your lover is fucking your mouth. THAT’s the kind of thing I’m talking about. No harm in that!
SEXTING is titillating!
Sexting is a GREAT way to act out so-to-speak some of your secret fantasies – that you may even want to kinda let your partner know about too, if you haven’t shared something that is really really turning you on and getting you off when you’re masturbating. If you don’t sext – again, I’m encouraging you to do so. Even if you’ve been together for 25 years and have never done it. In fact, THAT’S when it is probably best! Sexting does not have to include your nude privates – although I am a fan of sending sexy photos. I leave my face out of them. I mean, I can be identified by my pussy, sure, but if it lands on the internet at some point – I can say, hey, that’s NOT me. Lol But, the nude photos part aside – sexting is primarily our WORDS …. it’s story-telling. Just go for it. Here’s an example. I will set the tone, first: I’m lying on the couch in my ugly, comfy clothes, watching TV, stinky and gross from a hike earlier, but my lover has been out of town for a couple of weeks, so I’m a little horny. My sexxxt may go something like this:
Me: I’m thinking about you.
Him: You are?
Me: Yes, and I can feel myself getting wet.
Him: mmmmmm
(meanwhile, TV has caught my attention for a little bit, and I’m really not wet).
Me: *sending* a shot of my tits.
Him: I’d like to be sucking on those.
Me: I’d like that too – and I’d like you to lick and suck on my clit.
Him: While I slip a finger in your bum?
Me: mmmm oh, yes, and maybe burying a cucumber in my puss at the same time.
Him: oh, you are into veggie porn now?
Me: well, I’ve wondered how it would feel to have a cucumber or a banana up there.
Me, again: NOW I’ve pushed my wet panties aside and I’m playing with my clit myself. Tell me again when you’ll be home?
Meanwhile, NO, I’m not really playing with my clit; or maybe I am. The point here is that you can sext and also do other things at the same time; if you are a multi-tasker like I am anyway. Hey, cook dinner AND sext! You know, the olive oil will get you horny. Of course there are times when I am truly masturbating while sexting but that gets super tricky because the typing interrupts the fingering action. IMAGINATION is the key to sexting. … and DESCRIPTION; detailed description. “I’m fingering my dripping wet, swollen pussy; I can feel my G-spot when I stick my 2 middle fingers deep inside myself; and I’m thinking about your hard cock down my throat, choking me, making me gag and drool.” I mean, whether you like that or not you can sext the description. Of course, be careful – your man may think you are implying that you want to gag and drool on his dick and he may try it out on you (it is one of my personal favs). But that’s also the point I am making – if there’s a fantasy that’s been playing out in your mind, sexting is one way to introduce the possibility. If you’ve never had sex in a risky location – like a park bench for instance; or the picnic table at your campsite after everyone has gone to bed – then sexting is a place to mention it, even after the fact, for the next camping trip.
Me: I’m actually imagining us fucking along the creek next to our tent. Remember that giant log we passed by earlier while we were out hiking? I’d like you to bend me over that, take me from behind.
Him: WOW that sounds amazing. You’re getting me hard. (meanwhile, he’s headed into a meeting at work).
Whether your man is gone for one day or one month – sexting can really amp up and create some excitement for what’s waiting for him at home! It’s titillating. And there’s a reason why TIT is in that word.
One tip for you GUYS – be real careful here. Just because YOU like to get pictures of boobs, doesn’t mean we like to get pictures of your dick. In fact, unless asked, probs not a good idea to just send one of those out of the blue! They just aren’t as pretty as our parts are.
GUY SPEAK. GUYS SPEAK!
Speaking of you GUYS, it’s so very convenient and very much APPRECIATED that I have a few guy friends I can ask very poignant (and almost embarrassing) sex questions and receive honest, thoughtful, pertinent responses. You know who you are. Thank you.
Most recently I brought up the subject of “red wings” and had to ask what that meant…whoa I had heard something new at a recent party, and had to confirm it was a commonly known term. So, do you know what “red wings” are? That’s when a dude goes down on a chick when she’s having her period, and he well, doesn’t wipe his mouth and face – and you get the PICTURE from here: red WINGS.
At the party I was at a few weeks ago – we were laughing at someone’s expense. NOT someone present at the party; but a party-goer from a very distant past. Apparently a guy and a girl were getting it on at a house party. The thing is – they chose a room that everyone wanted access to because apparently this party was themed – and each room had a different type of cocktail. Sounds like a fun idea, actually. So, when this couple emerged from their quickie session, or not so quickie, I’m not sure, the guy had “red wings”. And he didn’t know it. And my friend said no one told him!! They let him walk around like that, and everyone snickered. I guess he was kind of a douche. Anyway, eventually he did have friends that told him. All that aside – I was like, “red wings”? What are “red wings”? hahaha
So, I asked one of my closest guy friends, and it was confirmed, that it is a known thing. How it has escaped me all these years, I don’t know. But, a discussion quickly ensued. First question, how does one not notice or think to wipe their mouth and face before reentering the public domain; Second question, what do YOU think of having sex while a girl is having her monthly time.
Most of the time, I personally don’t want a man down there or near my pussy on the first or even second days of my period. In fact, my libido goes down a little bit (relief). Now, the day BEFORE I start my P I’m hornier than the rest of the month. But once the blood flows… I take a mini break. That generally doesn’t last long though. Plus, sex can rev the P back up, right? Deep dick penetration will do that. I do know many many many women who love to have sex during their periods because they are very horny. Let me quickly point out here, right now, that some women mistakenly believe they aren’t fertile during their period. GUESS WHAT?!?! You can be. Don’t fool around with that, unless you are planning on having a baby. Mmmkkkk?? I can explain more about this another time; but once you start your period, there should be NO cumming inside. It has to do with the fact that an ovulation can occur early, and semen can live for a week – get my drift, see where I’m going with that?
The answer to the question, “how does one not know they have red wings” upon reentry into the public domain is probably one of the most priceless responses I’ve ever gotten: “maybe it was dark; wet is wet”. How TRUE is that? And isn’t there that frenzy that’s happening? We all know that sex frenzy feeling…. oh, wow, when you’ve been chasing each other around a party for a couple hours, haven’t fucked in months, the chick spreads her legs for the dude; she’s feeling the same frenzy; she couldn’t WAIT to get that door locked so she could spread her legs and get her pussy licked. We all want IT. And what is IT?? SEXUAL PLEASURE. IT’s not just a mere luxury, either. IT is a right; a “god-given” right, if you please. TAKE IT, DO IT. OFTEN.
GET IT ON. Do some fantasy fucking!
My apologies for being a day late with my post. I was “tied up” yesterday, getting IT on, cause it was THIRSTDAY!
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