THE PRIMAL SIDE

When I was reprimanding men in the last post about their “jack-hammering” it piqued my curiosity to watch some animal sex. To see what’s going on in the animal world. I chose lions. You know, pussy cats. I was quite fascinated. It’s not the first time I’ve seen animals having sex, but this was certainly a time when I was more aroused by it than just curious.

The lion was licking the lioness – you know where!!! Can you believe it? The lion was licking the pussy’s puss!!!! That’s fucking awesome. She was ENJOYING it too, rollin’ around on her back like a little hussy, legs spread.  Waiting, no begging, to be mounted. I was actually a little jealous of the lioness… she was getting her pussy licked, napping, waking up for a quick bang, then back to napping.

Cunnilingus

I’m really 50/50 on the whole gettin’ my pussy licked thing. I mean, first of all, it’s some pressure to feel good about how things are looking and smelling down there. Then, second of all, it’s some pressure to have an orgasm. In my span of dating and being in a few long-term relationships  (more than 5 years) only one man has consistently gotten me off by licking me.

I think I need to know I have alllllll the time in the world to cum, if need be. I’ve only been able to trust that with one man – he’s quite patient and persistent. I was willing to really go for it because from the first time he went down on me, our very first time together, he got me closer than anyone ever before.

I don’t think I’m unusual or unique. I think my experience is some others’ experience but certainly not everyone’s. I just have found it difficult to relax enough to cum when a man’s licking my pussy and clit. I will say, though, a finger in the ass goes a long way w/that too!! More about the bum later.

SAYING NO, YOU GO AHEAD

Obviously, we all have unique experiences and cum for varied reasons, in varied ways. Sometimes, it’s, just well, we just want our guy to go ahead and get off. It’s not worth the effort to cum for some reason. This is where we get tempted, too, to fake. Doooonnn’t do it. You’ve already been cautioned. This seems to especially happen with 2 people who’ve been together for a while. Just that pure honesty-go ahead, cum, babe. I’m good for now. Why is this I wonder? I’ve done it before. Others I know have done it. “I’m enjoying myself regardless of an orgasm” is the usual sentiment. It’s pretty rare to hear a dude say that. Unless they have whiskey dick. Then they may give up and pass out for a few hours until you wake up with a big stiffy in your back! I feel like I’ve said no to an orgasm primarily if/when I’m feeling guilty I’m not cumming quickly enough. So, I’m suspicious if you’re doing that too much. Don’t get into any habit of saying no to your orgasmic bliss. In fact, find MORE ways to cum.

BLISS – LIFE GOAL

How about this for bliss: I’m really committed to make myself cum while driving. I mean, I am talking “life goals” here. I’ve done it before but that’s cause I put my hand down my pants. Sometimes when I’m driving, and it’s not necessarily being bored on a long trip, it can be when I’m just headed to the grocery store, I like to use the seam of my perfectly tight jeans and rub it back and forth over my clit. Being a belly dancer comes in handy. The perfect reason to practice my shimmy. I really want to make myself have an orgasm doing that some day. I’m gonna have to be suuuuuper horny to do it I think, and give up the toys for a bit.

SEX TOYS – CAUTION!

You know that, right? Too much toy vibrating will desensitize your clit. I’ve experimented. It’s absolutely true. I’ve challenged friends to refrain and see the difference! They concurred. But, we still love our rabbits, and our bullets, and our suction-cupped-to-the-floor blue dong dildos!! I currently have the cutest little wand vibrator. It’s pink and has a heart at the top, vibrating end. Totally NOT my style but I fell for the adorbs cuteness. It’s so/so. I do try to avoid them if I have a lover around though. Makes it way easier to cum with my fingers and the cock. I do like it A LOT when HE uses it on me… especially if there’s a little double-penetration action. I mean, it’s just a little finger sized wand so I’m not talking any sort of porn-star video here (maybe I’m not denying it either).

ANAL

Ya, anal sex or anything anal. Now that’s definitely not for everyone. Oh, I’d say it’s 50/50 within the groups of people I know. And I’m consistently shocked with who does and doesn’t! Just never know.

It sure is nice to be on the same page about it though. I know guys who claim they don’t like it. Whatever. Are you a germ-a-phobe or something? Cause I seriously can’t imagine any dude who wouldn’t want a tighter place to squeeze his dick into. I don’t like it all the time – but when I want it, I want it. I like being obliged. I don’t think I’d ever say no to it either; I also try to oblige all requests. But I am talking about anal with someone who I’ve been consistently having sex with. For me, this is not a quickie, one night stand, sort of thing. In fact, that’s a horrifying thought esp if I’m suspicious you’re a jack-hammerer. Oh, HELL NO. So, guys, if you’re woman is consistently saying NO to anal then maybe you need to rethink your technique. It takes a LOT of lube, and lots of foreplay. Lots. Work for it guys. And gals, don’t be such tight-asses (see what I did there??) – give it a shot. Those orgasms?!?! Well, they are some of the BEST orgasms.

I’m gonna do it, I’m gonna say it – “trust me”!! I know what I’m talking about.

On that pleasant note, and until next week,

Xxx’s and Ooooo’s